Learning how to deal with the devastation of divorce is imperative

Here is why...

The foundational core of society is the family unit.  Half of all marriages are ending in divorce.  There are lots of people that are dealing with the aftermath of divorce all alone and doing a horrible job at it.  The family unit is in crisis.  Parents are broken and they are raising broken children because they don’t know how to deal themselves.  To insure that our society goes on will mean that individual people will need to do the work of recovering from the ravages of divorce so they can be happy and then help their children recover and be happy too. 

When I got my divorce I didn’t want to live.  Having been the child of divorce and never fully healing from that experience, I took the break up of my own marriage very hard.  All of those hurt feelings from when I was a teenage girl dealing with my parent’s divorce came flooding back into my body.  I didn’t care that I had two children ages 3 and 3 months old.  All I knew is that I didn’t want to raise them alone, I didn’t want to be just another statistic, and I didn’t want to face my ex ever again.  I felt backed into a corner, with no way out.  I was depressed, angry, and I cried A LOT.  I barely remember my daughter’s first year. I didn’t love myself so how could I love anyone else.  I was an empty shell just going through the motions.  I had a lot of work to do. 

It was my love for my sweet children that finally forced me to get on the road to healing.  It took me years to recover, lots of therapy, lots of self help books, lots of trial and error and lots of prayer.  I even wrote a book about my recovery.  It was during the time that I was putting my thoughts down in that book that I decided I wanted to dedicate my life to helping other people heal from divorce.  I found a school so I could get certified as a divorce coach and I got busy taking classes. 

I have four goals:  My first goal is to help you through the actual divorce.  From “yes, this is happening” to the divorce decree is signed.  My second goal is to help you pick yourself up, dust yourself off and get busy reinventing your life.  My third goal is to help you reignite your passions and create a plan to figure out how you will live the rest of your life, and finally, my fourth and final goal for our time together is to help you embrace your leadership skills so you can take the reins of your household and raise amazing children.  I am not a therapist.  I am not an attorney.  I am your guidepost, your confidant, your sounding board, and your anchor during this turbulent time.