Exploring whether divorce

is the right option for you

Although I myself have been through a divorce, I am a huge supporter of marriage and family. I realize that separating isn’t always the answer. I will be your sounding board and thinking partner as you work through this very specific, personal, and life changing decision.

I was one of the first people in my group of friends to get a divorce.  Once others started to secretly contemplate whether it was right for them, they would call me and ask to meet for coffee to talk.  I distinctly remember one conversation with a friend.  I told her, “The grass is not greener.  Divorce is final, it is not a joke, and it is hard.”  I definitely could help her with the negative side of divorce.  I remember getting out a piece of paper with her and writing down the positive and negative aspects of divorce.  She was a stay at home mom with two children and a husband that had cheated.   My first question to her was did she still love him.  My second question was could she forgive him.  My third, were they both willing to go to counseling.  We discussed her situation in depth.    In the end, she did end up getting a divorce albeit a year later.  She didn’t rush into it. 

If you think it’s time to start this very real, discussion.  Give me a call and let’s talk.  Our conversation will be confidential of course and visiting with me does not mean that a divorce is inevitable.  Getting your thoughts together will be something you can take away from the discussion so that if you decide that divorce is not the answer for you, you at least know what work you need to do to get your marriage back on track, but if it is a possible outcome, you also have those answers too.